Inferiority complex - The Enemy Is YOU

"Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people"

Carl Jung

Who doesn't have an inferiority complex? Everyone does, but if others believe that you have an inferiority complex it just means that you have a slightly higher degree of this feeling than others. And, this is not a disease. Inferiority complex is simply your way of identifying what you lack. This is also your failure in understanding what you can and have. 

Think of an “ideal you”, now genuinely evaluate what and who you are, and very simply subtract the “real you” from the “ideal you”, this gap is the cause of an inferiority complex. When your concept of the ideal you is reduced from fantasies and starts to coincide with reality, your inferiority complex will thin out just as quick. The problem is that “you rate yourself far too low”. 

The very first step to reducing your inferiority complex is to identify and accept your limitations. Knowing your limitations will either let you realize that everything is not meant for you or else will force you to improve yourself, in both ways you can reduce your expectation of yourself. After all, no one can be that larger than life superhero you see in the movies.

The next step is to know what reality is and to think practically. Think about your dream of the “ideal man”. It must be a millionaire, who is a saint, very helpful and has super human strength, lives on the top of a mountain and always helps people, who’ll have a super hot wife and super cute kids. That ideal man would go to work every day, come back home early, go to parties, is the center of attention, he paints, sings, dances well and so on. Now just think how many of these are self-contradictory! A saintly person abhors wealth and money and especially family and so opposite from what a millionaire is. If you live in the mountains how will you always get to the city to work and save people? If you get home early how will you ever be in parties where you can be the center of attention? Most of them are paradoxes. So the easy way is to strike off almost half of them. It is childish to wanting to be everything and to do everything.

The most crucial method to reduce your inferiority complex is to appreciate what you are. Because then the desires of wanting more subsides by many fold. When you can excel in one task rather than doing ok in ten other tasks, you have to appreciate yourself for doing at least one thing in the best possible way and excelling everyone else in it. After all what good are you to the world or yourself if you don’t love yourself.

If you feel that you are not good at something, find and alternate quality in which you can outshine others. Shakespeare wanted to be an actor, but when he couldn't be what he wanted to, he simply wrote and have never been excelled in the field eversince. We often notice that a child who fails in mathematics will be extra ordinary in languages or sports or in arts. It always helps hence to develop a quality that can efficiently eclipse your limitations. Nobody can be good in everything and everyone can’t be good in nothing.

Just remember the fact; if you have a bad case of negative complex, the enemy is YOU who is depreciating yourself. Give away the dreams and step into the reality, know yourself and believe in yourself. No fantasy can and will replace you; or else, atleast try to improve.